Life Is Hard But You’re Probably Making It Harder
Life is hard, right? It is for ALL of us!
Life is unfair and scary, not to mention anxiety-inducing. Whether you are getting divorced, or just got fired, or can’t make friends, there are literally an infinite number of ways which makes life seem impossible on a day to day basis.
And trust me when I tell you that I don’t know how to solve this for you, although I wish I did. But one thing I know for sure is that I make my life so much harder than it has to be, and I guarantee you do too.
I know what it’s like to be a 25-year-old girl with no clue what my future holds, not to mention how to even void a check. I have no certain career path, no boyfriend, pretty much no nothing. Seems grim, but what I’ve realized after these 25 years of stress is that I actively ruin my chances of ever finding happiness every single day.
It is nobody’s fault but mine, and I take responsibility for that.
I don’t go out, I am scared to chit-chat with people, and I refuse to online date because I am obsessed with meeting someone organically so how could I find a boyfriend? I don’t chase after opportunities, so how could I find my dream job? I sit at home with my mom and sisters, so how the hell am I ever going to live the life I dream of living?
The man of my dreams is not going to knock on my door, and he’s not going to knock on yours either.
We are ruining our own lives people, now lets WAKE UP!
You are sabotaging your own self by believing that you are not worthy of love, friendship, a career, but how do you change your perspective? How do you go from self-loathing to self-loving?
First, think about the girl/woman/person you admire the most. Why do you admire them? Are they confident? Self-assured? Put together? I know the women that I look up to are all of those things. Things that I too aspire to be.
You would never aspire to be the girl in the bar who looks uncomfortable and out of place, right? Nope.
In order to change your perspective, you need to change how you view yourself and stop making excuses.
I can almost 100% guarantee you that all of the things you hate about yourself NOT A SINGLE PERSON in a bar, party, wherever, would ever think about any of those self-induced flaws. They are completely in your own head.
Force those evil thoughts out of your head. Be confident, or at least tell yourself that you’re confident and maybe one day you will believe it.
Better yet, become the woman you aspire to be.
If you want to look great in a dress, then eat right and exercise.
If you want to get better at talking to people, stop hiding in your bedroom and start talkin!
If you want to meet the man of your dreams, get out and start lookin!
Cchange your perspective, become more proactive, and be the absolute best version of yourself.
You need to stop complaining about everything you’re not to become everything that you are.
I know that all of this is easier said than done, but with practice and persistence, we can all make life just a little bit easier.