The Millennial Resume: 24 & Living On My Sister’s Couch
Five years ago if you had told me that I would be living in my sister’s apartment, sleeping on her couch, and trying desperately to find a job, I would have punched you in the face.
Just kidding… I would never punch you, but I definitely would’ve never believed you.
You see, I have always had crazy, unrealistic expectations for myself, and that is part of the reason why I am in this situation in the first place!
I used to dream about having a larger than life career with tons of money, a big house, and a perfect family, but not a single one of those things have come true and I genuinely don’t mind. I no longer dream about the material things that I used to.
The funny part of growing up is that what used to be important to you really just isn’t anymore. For example, I find myself looking at a guy I find attractive and wondering whether he would be a good father or not. Do you think I ever cared about that when I was 18? No wayyy.
I never thought that my thought processes would change so drastically, but they really have.
I now dream about fulfillment, happiness, and my own form of personal success.
Living on my sister’s couch definitely hasn’t brought me fulfillment or feelings of success, but for the most part, I am happy. Notice I said for the most part… unemployment really isn’t a time for celebration.
Right now I am finding it hard to discover my purpose. I do know that I am happier being unemployed with barely $100 bucks to my name than I was when I lived in Washington DC studying for my Master’s degree, something that gave me purpose and direction for my future.
What I do know is that I am happier being unemployed with barely $100 bucks to my name than I was when I lived in Washington DC studying for my Master’s degree, something that clearly gave me purpose and direction for my future.
Every day my dreams go unrealized is a hard day, but I am so unbelievably grateful for my sister’s encouragement and patience with me, that I find it physically hard to stay upset for long. I mean I kind of owe it to my sister to not be a depressing roommate, because without her I would literally be living in my Prius.
I try to force a smile on my face but the truth is that I struggle daily with accepting where I am in life.
I am about to be 25 years old in a month and boy do I wish I had my life a little bit more figured out, but I have to remind myself of how far I have come and that there is no way this detour can be a fluke. There has to be a reason for all of this, and it only makes me more determined to find out what that reason is.
I actually read a quote that the amazing Mel Robbins, author of The 5 Second Rule, tweeted that really reallllly resonated with me, and I have posted here for it to resonate with all of you too.
We each have a different path in life, and although I would have loved to be 25 with a large nest egg and settled in a lovely house, that just was not meant to be my journey. So I can lay here on my sister’s couch wondering how the hell I got here, or I can put my energy into getting back on my feet.
It also helps to remind yourself that one day you will look back at the hard times and laugh hysterically at how stupid you were for crying so much.
No matter what stage you are in your life, accept it, embrace it, live it!
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